Simply put. Do you have a set of values that you live by? Do your decisions and actions point to your values? When you have a clear set of values, your decisions become much easier to stand behind. When I based tough or questionable decisions on my core values, I had no problem explaining my decision to the boss. However, when I based my decision on my own merits or other ego-driven reason; I had no foundation to stand on when things went wrong. Define your values and align your life to them.