This really made sense to me after watching my 9 year old boss around her little brother. He agrees to be compliant when she is hen-pecking him, but that only lasts when she is around. Those who want to be the boss, are only effective when they are pulling the leash. Once they stop from exhaustion or have to move to another area, their influence is over. However, those who are leaders, can impact the masses long after they are gone.
Deliberate Development 