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Deliberate Development

Professional Development for the Military Leader

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Daily Deliberation: 23 May 2019

Isn’t this the truth?! We spend so much time arguing over certain points and think everyone else is wrong, in denial or just plain stupid. The truth is, they just have a different viewpoint based on the reality of their own lives. We all have different needs, backgrounds and experiences that have forged us into what we are today. We need to worry about what matters to us and strengthen that stance instead of spending our time weakening another. If our’s truly is superior, others will eventually see the light.

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Daily Deliberation: 20 May 2019

Yes! This is very timely for me. I was just scrolling through some posts on my news feed and was getting angry at some of the things people were posting. Why? Many of them weren’t posting them to be hurtful to me specifically. Even if they were, who cares? We have to stop giving people so much emotional control over our lives. My pastor says to stop worrying about WHO is right and work towards WHAT is right.

Daily Deliberation: 13 May 2019

It doesn’t matter where you have been or where you are going. When you get there, you are still you. Learn from your past and improve yourself to be the person you want to become. Look to the future and work to be that person you know you can be. Then look in the mirror today and marvel at the beauty.

Daily Deliberation: 2 May 2019

Isn’t it frustrating that the very first piece of leadership advice we get is the hardest to apply? We tell our children and our teammates to ‘lead by example’ and yet we mess this up all the time. At least, we think we do when we fall short of perfection. Instead of hanging our heads in shame as a failure, this is the exact point we need to step it up. Everyone falls short of perfection; however, not many know how to get through these missteps. Set the example on how to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and learn from the experience.

Daily Deliberation: 1 May 2019

I have worked for and with so many people who simply could not control their cool. Some of them were scary to be around in high-stress scenarios and others were actually fun to get spun up. I watched wrenches, clipboards, coffee mugs, and many other objects fly across the room or flightline and even a couple people who began to dry heave. All because of stress. Now, everyone else on the plane or team was experiencing the same stress factors, we just had a different response. When you are leading a team and things begin to crumble, it is normal to feel stressed. It is normal to want to throw something, swear or whatever. However, you can’t let your team see this, because they are looking to you to be their rock. I bet the guy in the picture is stressed out; however, he knows he has to remain calm for his team.

Daily Deliberation: 26 April 2019

One of the hardest things to do as a leader is to stand in front of your team and tell them you failed. However, we all make mistakes and need to own them quickly. Once we acknowledge our missteps, we can learn from them and move onto a smarter path for the next attempt. Our teams respect us more when we can admit we are not perfect and they are more likely to ask us for help when they make a mistake.

Daily Deliberation: 5 April 2019

I can still remember the day I defined my “why”. Throughout my whole life I have been a student of leadership and have had a passion for teaching others. I tried different variations of these two and had a great time, but it wasn’t until I married the two that I felt the fire. I started this site and will be working with civilians soon with this underlying purpose: “to serve others through mentorship so they can learn from my successes and failures and get at least one step further than I have.” What drives you each day? Not sure, feel free to connect with me and I would love to help you figure it out.

Daily Deliberation: 1 April 2019

I love this concept about failing. We all fail. It is ok to fail. We look at failure as something terrible and as if we are losers. Failure means we tried something and fell short…that is it. Now, the important thing is what was learned from that failure to make us better for the next time. We have to ask what went wrong and how can we prepare for it better the next time around. Failure is merely feedback, it is not the end of the road.

Daily Deliberation: 25 March 2019

“I am way to busy to get to that today.” This is something we all say a lot. We can’t perceive taking 15 minutes from our crazy schedules for something else. However, if our car broke down on the way into work, we would find a way to get that towed and fixed. This process may take hours and yet we find the time. Why? Because it became a priority. We ALWAYS find time to take of the things we make a priority. Those little fires that pop up where we drop everything to go and handle are our organization’s way of setting new priorities for us. It is not that you don’t have enough time, it is simply not a priority for you.

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