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Daily Deliberation: 15 October 2017

Yes! This is very timely for me. I was just scrolling through some posts on my news feed and was getting angry at some of the things people were posting. Why? Many of them weren’t posting them to be hurtful to me specifically. Even if they were, who cares? We have to stop giving people so much emotional control over our lives. My pastor says to stop worrying about WHO is right and work towards WHAT is right.

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Daily Deliberation: 7 October 2017

It doesn’t matter where you have been or where you are going. When you get there, you are still you. Learn from your past and improve yourself to be the person you want to become. Look to the future and work to be that person you know you can be. Then look in the mirror today and marvel at the beauty.

Daily Deliberation: 30 September 2017

I am sharing this one for two reasons: 1. it is pretty funny and 2. it is a reminder that just because we are not always in the leader role doesn’t mean we can’t be tough. In fact, I think leaders need to develop their flock to be leaders themselves. No one can think for multiple people and if you develop your team, you will have multiple people think with you. If you have an IQ of 190 (genius level stuff) and have 10 people with IQ’s of 90, they are still smarter than you collectively. Don’t herd sheep to blindly follow…create battlesheep who are ready to lead!

Daily Deliberation: 21 September 2017

Isn’t it frustrating that the very first piece of leadership advice we get is the hardest to apply? We tell our children and our teammates to ‘lead by example’ and yet we mess this up all the time. At least, we think we do when we fall short of perfection. Instead of hanging our heads in shame as a failure, this is the exact point we need to step it up. Everyone falls short of perfection; however, not many know how to get through these missteps. Set the example on how to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and learn from the experience.

Daily Deliberation: 19 September 2017

I have worked for and with so many people who simply could not control their cool. Some of them were scary to be around in high-stress scenarios and others were actually fun to get spun up. I watched wrenches, clipboards, coffee mugs, and many other objects fly across the room or flightline and even a couple people who began to dry heave. All because of stress. Now, everyone else on the plane or team was experiencing the same stress factors, we just had a different response. When you are leading a team and things begin to crumble, it is normal to feel stressed. It is normal to want to throw something, swear or whatever. However, you can’t let your team see this, because they are looking to you to be their rock. I bet the guy in the picture is stressed out; however, he knows he has to remain calm for his team.

Daily Deliberation: 12 September 2017

One of the hardest things to do as a leader is to stand in front of your team and tell them you failed. However, we all make mistakes and need to own them quickly. Once we acknowledge our missteps, we can learn from them and move onto a smarter path for the next attempt. Our teams respect us more when we can admit we are not perfect and they are more likely to ask us for help when they make a mistake.

Daily Deliberation: 15 August 2017

I can still remember the day I defined my “why”. Throughout my whole life I have been a student of leadership and have had a passion for teaching others. I tried different variations of these two and had a great time, but it wasn’t until I married the two that I felt the fire. I started this site and will be working with civilians soon with this underlying purpose: “to serve others through mentorship so they can learn from my successes and failures and get at least one step further than I have.” What drives you each day? Not sure, feel free to connect with me and I would love to help you figure it out.

Daily Deliberation: 13 August 2017

Have you ever thought you weren’t good enough to do something? When you thought that, it probably crippled you with fear to try something new. I know I feel that way all the time, especially with trying to start a media company. “Who am I to think others want to read my posts or listen to my podcast?” Instead we need to stop worrying about all the people who might not like it; rather, worry about adding value to the one who will learn from us. If we can help just one other person get a little further along in life, I think that is pretty amazing.

Daily Deliberation: 6 August 2017

I love this concept about failing. We all fail. It is ok to fail. We look at failure as something terrible and as if we are losers. Failure means we tried something and fell short…that is it. Now, the important thing is what was learned from that failure to make us better for the next time. We have to ask what went wrong and how can we prepare for it better the next time around. Failure is merely feedback, it is not the end of the road.

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