Deliberate Development

Professional Development for the Military Leader


Self Leadership

Daily Deliberation: 15 February 2018

We tend to mirror or compare ourselves to others in the world or our workcenters. There are times it is useful to see how we are performing on the team in comparison to others. However, we should not try to become the other person or even think our contributions should be equal to that of others. We are on a team because we have a role to fill, we can’t all do the same thing. Never thought I’d steep to quoting the Patriots, but their saying…”do your job” is appropriate to everyone. Learn your role and then do the work. Don’t try to be like the others.


Daily Deliberation: 11 February 2018

As leaders we tend to create policies. Sometimes they are intended and other times they are not. When we verbally dictate or draft a letter to say how things should be, we are talking the talk. The key moment is and true test is if we walk the walk afterwards. Are we enforcing these policies? Are we saying one thing and doing another? I know I am guilty of this myself. I will say a certain office is responsible for something and then when things go wrong, I am tempted to group punish instead of holding the right person accountable. To be honest, I have to hold myself accountable a lot of times too!

Daily Deliberation: 31 January 2018

This is so true. We all laugh at those whom used to think the sun revolved around the Earth. How could that be? However, we like to think the world revolves around us. They need to do X; She needs to Y…Instead, what could you be doing differently? How could you approach the situation differently? We can only change ourselves.

Daily Deliberation: 30 January 2018

I recently heard an interview where they were discussing how Americans no longer had hobbies. He was stating that we work all day, maybe do some exercise, kid activities and then veg out to the DVR, Netflix or social media on our phone. I remember growing up and my dad would be tinkering on an old car, my neighbor would do some woodwork, etc. They honed their hobbies until they were experts…I have seen this in my own life. I think we all should just try something different and see how it goes.

Daily Deliberation: 14 January 2018

My dad once told me that if my job was to shovel poo (he chose a different word), then to be the best shoveler on the crew. The goal is not to one up the team, but to push the team to new heights. When we work harder, those around us do too. When we surpass the capacity of our work, we often get promoted. Then we need to start the cycle over. Raise our game and the game of those around us will also increase. We raise others up by setting the example.

Daily Deliberation: 12 January 2018

This notion scares me. In so many areas of my life, I know where I want to be in 3, 5, 10 years but am not perfect about executing my plan. Sometimes I see the lack of effort come to fruition in my personal and professional life. I see the thing I ignored all of a sudden come back to bite me or the conclusion was not as planned. However, when I am deliberate about the plan and what my next step is, I am still not perfect, but I am not disappointed either. Plan, Do, Next is a great strategy to help me arrive where I am trying to go.

Daily Deliberation: 2 January 2018

This past week I have been on a last minute trip to my hometown and there I was cut off from a lot of my typical routines and I had a lot of time for self-reflection. I will admit, I was able to think about my team at work and if I am being the leader I should be. I was thinking about my role on this site and most importantly about my role as a father. Just allowing myself to explore the boredom and reflect on my many roles was very satisfying and eye-opening. Take some time today to allow yourself to just reflect. You will learn a lot about yourself if you open your mind to it.

Daily Deliberation: 21 December 2017

Whenever I have been rigid in my ways, things have not worked out that well. I remember being so egotistical that I had painted myself into a corner and left myself no way out. Of course, I had made the wrong call, but made it even worse by being so set in my ways that I the only option was to fail or succeed in isolation. I have had to learn to be open to other options and opinions. Ironically, I am more successful now and even when I fail…there is a team beside me.

Daily Deliberation: 13 December 2017

It is amazing how many times I have said this, but have failed. I allow others to pollute my mind or temperament by listening to their nonsensical ideas. When this does happen I try to stop and ask myself why I even care in the first place. If they are sharing an opinion about something that will not impact me 5 minutes after I walk away, I walk away or simply listen. If it is something that can’t be ignored, I do my best to get to the root of the issue and keep out all of the extra garbage people try to dump in there.

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